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About Today’s Show
I want to talk about cracking that code of vulnerability. Cracking that code of vulnerability, first of all, isn't the easiest thing to do because one of the things you have to catch is when you're in that moment of vulnerability.
If you're already a very sensitive and empathetic person, sometimes it's a little bit difficult to determine and discern between what's a natural sensitivity and what's actual vulnerability. Remember, vulnerability is an aspect of perceived threat or harm that may come to you. It can come at any moment, it can come at any state that you're in, and it's natural emotion quality.
Now I want to repeat again that vulnerability will cause you to stay in your 3D form because on the other side of that 3D form is actually this energy of ease. On the other side of discomfort is ease and ease appears when you feel like you're in alignment with the source. You feel that you’re in a union with the source. You feel like everything that happens is going to work out just fine because you truly believe in the source taking care of you and affecting the decisions that you make.
To evolve from that container of the 3D form of vulnerability of the 5D of vulnerability, requires an aspect of faith. It requires an aspect of cultivation, and it requires permission. Remember, you don't force yourself to feel better from vulnerability, you actually allow yourself to have a different feeling, but you have to be able to notice the difference. You have to be able to have a contrast between when you're feeling vulnerable and when you're feeling strong and ease.
How do you crack the code? The recordkeeper simply wants to let you know that you have to bat for yourself. You have to go up to bat for yourself. First of all friends, I have a disclaimer for you because I don't play baseball. I don't watch baseball. I don't know anything about baseball except that there are three bases, four bases if you include the home plate, you got to make it through the bases to get home. There's a pitcher and there's people that play. That's all I know about it.
Whenever baseball does show up, unfortunately, I switch the channel. When the recordkeeper said, “You have to come to bat for yourself.” At first, I didn't understand what that meant until they actually broke down the acronym.
First of all, let's discuss what this means to “bat for yourself.” When people are feeling vulnerable, it's usually because there's an aspect of this feeling alone at that moment. They're feeling tender. They're feeling there's perceived harm or threat that surrounds them. They're feeling uncomfortable. They're feeling a little exposed, and they're feeling a little subject to other people's opinions or interpretations of them.
Breathing anchors you in to your form and it gets you into a place of instead of falling into the stress response of fight or flight, you bring yourself into the state of presence.
As long as you stay in that state, you will never bat for yourself. What batting for yourself means is that when the pitcher (the situation) throws the ball at you, instead of going, I'm going to get hurt or running from the ball, you actually step up to the plate and you take a swing at it. That's what batting for yourself means.
You're willing to step up, you're willing to see it, you're willing to address it, and you're willing to actually do something about it. When the record keeper shared this energy of batting for yourself, I was a bit lost, and tell me about it. I was feeling vulnerable. I was like, bat for yourself? What exactly does that mean?
When any situation shows up and the pitcher—that's the situation—throws the ball at you, the first thing you as the batter have to do is breathe. Breathing anchors you into your form. Breathing anchors you into your form and it gets you into a place of instead of falling into the stress response of fight or flight, you go [breathes in]. You bring yourself into the state of presence. Presence, first, okay?
The way the recordkeepers are inviting us to breathe is this particular pattern. When the initial situation appears, your first step is to take a deep breath, five seconds—one, two, three, four, five, you hold it for two seconds, and then slowly exhale to the count of ten. That's once. They're asking us to breathe three times in the bat cycle because the bat cycle allows you to grab yourself and then slowly bring yourself from stress to ease.
It's the first step and you want to do this three times, but if you find yourself in a hyperventilatory state, you've really worked yourself up. You're not just feeling vulnerable, you're flat out scared. You're worried, you're freaked out, you're about to jet. Remember, stop, breathe, hold it, and then [breathes out]. Ten seconds. You can go: ten, nine, eight, seven, six, five, four, three, two, one. Three, four, five, hold for two, and exhale, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten.
By the time you do three full cycles of this breathing, you're going to have a very different perspective on the situation in front of you. The second way that you crack the code around vulnerability is acknowledge. Remember, you're holding yourself into a position where you can be in a state of power rather than disempowerment to the scene, scenario, and the response path around. You're cracking that vibration. You're cracking the code that's influencing you and causing you to feel really tender, really stressed, really irritated, so acknowledge.
The way you acknowledge it is you just have to stop and take a look at the situation. It's not hard, you just got to go, okay, what's happening right now? Right now is all that matters so you're acknowledging and you're really checking to see are you in danger? Is there anything that could potentially harm you, hurt you right at that moment?
Through acknowledgment, you are actually checking and assessing your pattern around the reaction. If you realize that okay, I'm about to go up and deliver a speech. Okay, that's in about five minutes and I'm feeling really nervous, feeling really vulnerable, feeling really, really upset. But wait, that's in five minutes. Why am I all getting worked up? That's not even happening right now. I'm going to go back to breathing, bring myself down, down, down to ease. Breathe, hold, bring yourself back down, down, down, down, down to ease.
The second step is you got to acknowledge, is the situation causing you any threat or harm right now? If it's not, put yourself into the statement of it's okay, I'm safe, and there's nothing immediately right now that I have to deal with. Now, if you find that okay, my five minutes is turning into two minutes, it's turning into one minute, and I have to get up on this stage, I'm going to have to deliver, or I'm going to have to… anything.
But I'm still feeling really vulnerable then T, tap. You got to tap your way into a different kind of thinking. You're breathing, you're assessing, and now you're going to tap. When I talked about embodiment, a recordkeeper discuss the special karate chop point here on the side of your left hand, on the side of your right hand. What you're going to do is tap seven times and there's a pattern. It's two, three, two, two, three, two. That's seven taps—two, three, two.
What happens is you realize, okay this perceived threat is getting closer, it's getting closer, it’s getting closer. You tap a statement to calm and bring your nerves down. One of those things you can say is I am safe, I am okay, I am choosing to be here. The moment you say, I am choosing to be here, that’s when a part of you that goes, oh, I have a choice. And if I'm choosing to be here, then I wouldn't put myself in an unsafe situation, would I? No, I wouldn't.
I am protected. I am safe. I am in my power.
Is this actually doable? Can we handle this? If you can say yes to it, you can do it. You can do anything. If you're feeling like I'm really feeling the sensitivity, I'm feeling this vulnerability, or try this, you're having a discussion with your friend, a family member, a partner, and things are starting to get a little heated.
You're trying to defend yourself, you're trying to stand up for your opinion around a subject, but it's like both of you are just hitting walls with each other and you're feeling this irritation rising. You're feeling the discomfort rising, you're feeling the tenderness rising. You're feeling a little exposed here. The way you can express that is your voice may rise, you may start to sweat, your skin may start to get prickly, the hairs may start to stand up. Those are all different kinds of signs that a threat is happening.
So what do you say? I am protected. I am safe. I am in my power. I am protected. I am safe. I am in my power. Try the tapping mechanism on the karate chop points seven times on each side because what that does is it's like a gentle acupressure for the body and it brings the sympathetic tone that says we're getting stressed, we're getting stressed, we're getting stressed. And it says, we're going to tone down the volume and bring it down a little bit so we can actually feel a little bit on top of the situation.
All those three things—breathing, acknowledging, tapping—are you taking actions to crack the code of vulnerability and you're stepping up to the plate. When the pitcher or life throws anything your way, your job is to step up to the bat and knock it out the park.
